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Julia
Member
Username: Tucacu
Post Number: 1
Registered: 08-2016
| | Posted on Friday, August 05, 2016 - 12:50 pm: | 
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Hello all,
I'm a girl of 25, I was transplanted last year in Barcelona. I had a sudden illness (IgA neprithis) that destroyed my kidneys in just months, so it was kind of a shock.
I spent four months on dialysis trying to recover but when it didn't work, my mom donated her kidney and now I'm approaching my second year anniversary without any major complications.
I wanted to say hi to everybody and I have a question for you regarding social life. Do you tell people you have a transplant? For example, if you start working in a new place?
I usually tell people if I know them in a informal way but I haven't told people at my work.
Somehow I know some people react with "pity" and while there is nothing to blame on them, it still bothers me.
I would like to hear your experiences on this. Another interesting area is dating, do you tell people you date that you have a transplant? What do you think?
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Hostess Risé
Board Administrator
Username: Rise
Post Number: 18391
Registered: 05-2003
| | Posted on Friday, August 05, 2016 - 04:10 pm: |
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Hi Julia
Thank you for joining us
You will receive several answers to your questions if you join us on http://transplantfriends.com
Happy to hear your Mother was able to bless you with her kidney. How awesome!
Always put your feelings first and if you feel comfortable sharing about your health at work then share if not, don't tell them. If there is a law that you must disclose your current health then I would tell them.
As far as dating, after the first or second date, I would Definitely tell someone you are dating. You want to know that someone is ready to handle all aspects of you and that includes your health. Think about how would you feel if the person you were dating was keeping a secret about their health.
If you do not tell them in the first few months and you invest a great deal of time with them and when they do find out about your experience they might feel like you will continue to hide something from them as they might start to feel a lack of trust from you.
There is nothing to be ashamed and why would someone pity you? Would you pity someone who was your friend who needed a transplant?
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